There are many different thoughts when it comes to our wedding day. We all agree that it is a very important day in our lives but we disagree when it comes to what needs to be done in order to celebrate it and make it special.
Some people will run off to the courthouse and get married by a judge. Others, however, will spend thousands or maybe even millions of dollars on a wedding. Some people can afford it, other people can’t.
Recently, a father went on Reddit to express his opinion about his daughter’s wedding. He does have money, but the New York father decided that he wouldn’t spend the money on an extravagant destination wedding for his daughter.
At one point, he made the promise to pay for his daughter’s wedding. It’s not unusual for parents to say that they are going to support their children in this way but then he discovered what she had planned.
Her dream wedding was not something affordable, it was actually a $200,000 destination wedding in New Zealand. The father was obviously taken aback by the price tag, and now he didn’t know what to do.
He had made a promise to fulfill his daughter’s wish to have a memorable wedding experience. Then again, this was going above and beyond when it came to spending money, and he even referred to it as burning money.
His opinion was not the most popular, and his family was expressing disbelief that he wouldn’t pay for the wedding. That is when he decided to go on Reddit to ask the internet if he was being unreasonable.
My daughter is getting married, and she wishes to have a destination wedding and told her no. My wife feels I should do it because we can afford it, but I find it to be a pointless showing of wealth. Now my daughter is not talking to me, nor is my wife. Which got me thinking should I bite the bullet and essentially burn money, and alienate family members to make my daughter’s dream wedding a reality?
Edit: Forgot to mention she wants to get married in NZ, we also are from NY.
Edit: Forgot to mention she is currently asking for around 200k. This is not counting what guests would have to pay to come.
Edit: Thanks for all of the comments have given me a great deal to think about. Before anything else, I know I am not the father of the year, and I am a spineless coward.
Tomorrow I am going to start making phone calls to price what a wedding in NY would cost at different head counts from 100 to 200 people. I do not know the exact size I just know he also has a large close family.
After I get that information I will use that to make an informed choice, but it will be an either or situation. Because they are playing this game I will tell both of them my wife and daughter that it is a wedding or house.
If my wife makes a fuss over it that is a battle I will have to face at another time.
