One of the most difficult things that can happen in our lives is for our significant other to cheat on us. It’s a devastating event that can take its toll for many years to come.
We don’t talk about it very often but it is the subject of the story that we are sharing with you below. Unfortunately, the man was cheating with the nanny and the wife knew it.
Although she couldn’t prove anything, she had her suspicions so she decided to buy some nanny cams and use them. What would she find? Read her story below.
My husband (45M) and I (38F) have 3 children, 2 girls and a boy, ranging between the ages of 4 – 9 and our current nanny has been with us for 19 months thus far. She is 22 years old and currently taking a gap year before commencing grad school in the fall. She had previously babysat for one of my close friends who also knows her family and came with many good recommendations in tow. Our previous nanny was in her 30’s and had been with us since my oldest child was a few months old but was moving away from Oakland in June, 2017 and could no longer make the commute to us which necessitated the need for someone else.
When I eventually conducted the interview with this new girl a few days later, she made quite an impression with my kids and they had taken a liking to her almost immediately so it was a no-brainer. Since hiring her, this girl has practically become a part of our family as she babysits almost every weekend, spending Saturdays out with my kids and on some weekdays depending on my schedule. She has also come along with us on trips to Hawaii, Florida, and Mexico. I have no complaints about the way she handles my children, they practically love her to bits and she does a really good job on that front. As the title suggests however, I have been seriously contemplating nanny cameras during these past 4 days, initially sparked by a situation that transpired with my husband last weekend whereby the nanny was supposed to leave as soon as the kids were put to bed by 10:30 and go home. This is how it has always been or at the very least, how I’ve wanted it to be and expect her to follow through with it.
I plan corporate events for a living and Saturdays are some of my busiest days so I’m usually not home until midnight or even later on some occasions. On this particular Saturday, I got home at 1:00 in the morning and found this girl still in my house, putting on her coat as I opened the door to step into my foyer and my husband had walked directly behind her leading from our den. It appears that she had already been paid and looked flustered for a minute. When I asked what she was still doing here,she responded “we were watching a movie”, the “we” referring to my husband and her of course. It was already so late and there was no way I was going to probe further so I put on a fake smile, told her bye and out she went. I immediately rolled my eyes at my husband and began to walk up the stairs to our bedroom not saying a word. He knew I was angry, ran up behind me to tell me that he couldn’t just tell her to leave and “it’s not like she’s a stranger in this house”. My intuition told me that something isn’t quite right here and haven’t been able to shake those feelings off since. The next day, I had asked one of my daughters about what time they had went to bed and she said her younger siblings were already in bed but she slept later since the nanny and her father were talking a lot and laughing that she could hear them all the way upstairs until she fell asleep. She told me that they do this on most Saturday evenings so obviously someone must have lost track of time, no? I haven’t asked my husband about this as yet.
This is where it begins to get muddied for me however and in part, probably is due to my own naivety. This young lady who is quite attractive and full of promise has had a crush on my husband from the moment she began working for us and I overheard her speaking to her friend on loudspeaker from the landing above and out of sight while she was tying my son’s shoelaces at the bottom of the main stairwell. She told her friend that she was working and the friend immediately responded with “the one with the hot dad”, she said “yes” and turned off the loudspeaker as soon as one of my daughters slid down the banister. To be honest, it didn’t bother me then and I wasn’t going to blame a young girl for having a harmless crush on an older man that will go nowhere. I did tell my husband about it soon afterwards and the both of us laughed it off.
However, that was a different place and time in my life however because I have to admit that the aforementioned incident has now made me turned me into a paranoid mess within a few short days and led me to go back and revisit all of the photographs we had taken on our trips with this girl. In so many of them, my husband holds her closely around the waist and they are both sporting mile wide smiles. On some Saturdays, she has also joined my kids and husband on day trips while I am busy with work. I do find it amazing that my husband doesn’t talk much to her beyond small talk and the kids when I am around but suddenly has a lot to say when I’m not. He also has a habit of tipping her graciously whereas I stick to the predefined amount according to the number of hours spent. In retrospect, there are situations that now make me question them and if these two are going behind my back or if it’s just my overactive imagination assuming the worst? Firing her is out of the question for now but I think installing nanny cameras would help restore my sanity and hopefully put this paranoia to rest.
Opinions and advice would be appreciated.
